Sorry for the delay! Glad we’re catching up.
Gaslighting is like dousing a can of lighter fluid on a match. The experience can leave you scratching your head and doubting yourself.
We start thinking things like -
✔️Maybe I am being dramatic.
✔️I guess do complain too much.
✔️Things probably would’ve been better if I’d kept my feelings to myself.
Being gaslight is similar to the feeling of a bright hot light shining in your eyes.
1. It’s hard to see
2. It makes you pull away and recoil
3. There’s a blind spot when you try to get your bearings
Asking myself the following questions can help a lot:
1. Is it possible for two people to interpret the same situation differently?
2. What does it mean for two people to have different needs?
3. Have I communicated to the best of my ability and with compassion?
What questions come to mind for you?
New on the podcast!
Ep. 62. The Language of Gaslighting – a solo cast.
All feelings are created equal and deserve a seat at the table. BUT are feelings all communicated equally? Eh…. Not so much.
👉🏻Introducing “I feel” vs. “I feel like”
What’s the difference?
“I feel” -> requires awareness, acknowledgement, and vulnerability.
“I feel like” -> is an opportunity to continue telling you why I’m upset & what you’ve done wrong, while trying to sounding polite.
Have you ever fallen into this trap? I have! It’s easy to do.
Our feelings provide powerful insights into our lives. Think of yourself as an emotional scientist collecting data on your life. You want to gather and share the most accurate findings possible. Right?
Try practicing these statements in a journal and see what you discover.