It seems counterintuitive to actually loosen your grasp on something that you care about. But, that’s what Juanita Molano Parra and I are examining in our series, “Riding the Waves.” We’re looking at what comes up, what opens up, and what becomes available when we hold big ideas, big feelings, and big problems a little more lightly. Can this technique help us navigate rough emotional waves?
Juanita and I discuss this approach to mental health by posing several questions that are related to how we manage “big things.” This episode continues our breakdown of “what’s at stake?” Stakes can be both good and bad, penalty and reward, inspirational and paralyzing. We explore how stakes motivate us, what gets in the way, and real-life examples to provide context. Here are a few observations from our discussion:
Do we create unrealistic expectations when we use educational information (e.g., how-to or best practice resources) as a measurement for success?
Stakes that are healthy and empowering are very personal.
How can we balance self development with the pitfalls of perfectionism?
Educational information for growth and self development can be constraining, but “enlightenment will always taste of freedom.” (A quote of a quote.)
Educational information can provide a sense of permission in the face of risk. Just being seen can lessen the sense of risk.
Possibility is the flip side of risk, and possibility can be filled with beauty, magic, and joy.
JUANITA MOLANO PARRA, MBA, PCC
Juanita is an engineer and MBA turned certified life and leadership coach. Originally from Colombia, she worked in multinational corporate finance and later started her own coaching business—training new coaches and partnering with organizations to transform culture and leadership from within. Her business, Jump Coaching, helps leaders live authentically, lead with purpose, and turn their dreams into reality. Juanita lives in Indianapolis with her husband, their daughter, and two cats.
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DANIELLE IRELAND, LCSW
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